For me, it depends on the person because you connect with different people on different levels. I think that the hardest type of love to get over is one that is strongly based on friendship and family, one that has worked itself into your everyday life and character. Naturally I think the longer something lasts, the longer you're going feel the absence of that relationship, provided that you were happy with the person. I take severed ties with family, close friends, and long-term relationships all very hard. However, there have been instances where I've been involved in very intense but shorter affairs, where I think I was wearing my "rose colored glasses" and because I'll usually realize later that I was being blinded by my emotions- they are much easier to get over. It's tricky though because aren't those the most fun? I have yet to strike a balance or find someone with the measure of comfort and intensity to give my entire self to.

When something goes sour I let myself hurt over it, figure out why it happened, and then sort of remove myself. What can I take from this experience? Is what I try and ask myself. Yeah, sometimes you get fucked over with no explanation but there's really no use in dwelling for too long. You don't want to be with someone who hurts you, bottom line. I'm not sure if this type of thinking is a defense mechanism or if it's just smart and saves time and energy. Maybe a little of both. I truly believe that the strongest type relationship will work itself out.

I can relate to Oneinmotion's response lot your post a lot. I'm slow to attach as well. ... pisces moon is a placement with a lot of emotionally depth and sensitivity but there is also a degree of wisdom and an intuition that guides us along what we need to do in order to move forward.

"no pain, no anger, just a big blank void" -same goes for me. I wouldn't call it detachment, I think pisces moon is the opposite of detached but sign can find strength in solititude and the elusive behavior that doesnt always work to our advantage but that is certainly helpful in times where we need to reflect.